Quit Smoking: Why People Do Bad Things (Even When They Know They Shouldn't)

Do you do Bad Things? Even though you know you shouldn't?

It's not your fault. It really isn't. You know you should stop doing it, but no matter how much you know that, and how much you try, you just can't stop!

Everyone knows how to lose weight. Don't eat fattening foods. exercise. Everyone knows how to give up smoking. Dont light the cigarette. Yet having this knowledge just isn't enough. Sometimes even having the desire isn't enough! Time and again I hear about people who get really close to quitting smoking. They can get all the way down to one or two cigarettes a day, but just can't give up those last two. Many even make it all the way down to zero, but the cravings, oh the cravings! They are wretched, those cravings. Most will go back to smoking within the first few days. They can cut away most of the "stuff" that keeps them glued to the cigarettes, even not be addicted to nicotine anymore(!), but there is just something deep in their core that magnetically pulls them back in, like two lovers who know they are bad for each other but just can't help themselves.

What is this thing? What is at this core?

Let me take a step back for a moment. How many adults do you know who are happy? I mean really, truly happy? Think that question is foolishness? Let me ask you this. How many people do you know who love their work? I'm talkin' jump out of bed in the morning, can't wait to start. Sadly, the percentage is very small. Why is this?

We live in an interesting quick-fix culture. People don't really have to deal with their issues. We've got:

* television
* movies
* shopping
* toys
* and hitting the gym

to distract us and make us feel better. Even more than that, many people's issues are quite buried. Think of dreams that were squashed when we were young. "An artist? You could never make a living at that! You should be a doctor!" People often forget what their dreams once were.

As a result, I see an awful lot of unhappy, unfulfilled people walking around. They don't know what is bothering them, they just have that gnawing feeling that there must be more. Advertisers pray on this, selling us more and more bottles and gizmos to give us that ever elusive Happiness.

True inner needs? People either:

* think they're impossible to fulfill
* are too scared and resigned to fulfill them
* or are so disassociated from those needs that they don't even know what they would be even if they had to guess!

All those "bad" things -- smoking, overeating, gambling, alcohol, the list goes on and on -- are easy ways to fill the void. Smokers will be able to relate to this one -- if you've just had a fight with your family, what do you do? You go for a smoke. Smoking makes it feel like the problem goes away. (I call this the "smokescreen." Har har!)

I'll let you in on a little secret--the real reason it's so hard to quit is not the nicotine. It's this void-filling. When you quit smoking (or any bad habit), you're suddenly faced with real life. All those stresses and needs that you've been avoiding? There they are, pulling at your coat tails, yelling, "Pay attention to me! Pay attention to me!" If you got in touch with your real inner needs and took baby steps to start fulfilling them, you would actually have little desire for cigarettes. It's true! I see it happen time and again in my Stop Smoking Coaching practice.

How do you do that, you ask? Here are some baby steps that you can start trying out now:

* Next time, instead of taking that quick fix--stop.
* Have a little quiet time and listen to what your insides have been trying to tell you.
* Try journaling -- don't edit your thoughts, just write.
* Some people find meditation and yoga to be great accesses.
* Try deep breathing.
* Go for a quiet, leisurely walk by yourself.
* Personally, I find it easiest to just start noticing where in life I seem to be avoiding things the most, or if I want something more immediate and active, doing a mindmap (a word drawing) to figure out what I'm really thinking.

For each person, the key to figuring out your needs is different. play around with it, don't give up! You'll be glad you did!

Jill Binder is The Stop Smoking Coach with a 90 day program to show people the 8 steps to quitting smoking forever, with a 100% success rate. She is the author of "What's Your Smoking Type?" and has appeared on "Daytime" (TV), "Radioactive women" (Radio), "Good times" (magazine), and "Metro toronto Today" (newspaper).

You can sign up for her newsletter, "YourTurn - Turn Your Weaknesses Into Your Perfect Life" at http://www.StopSmokingCoach.ca

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Another Season - Another Storm

We've all heard the predictions - Fifteen major atlantic hurricanes are expected for 2007, five of which are predicted to impact Central florida. Certainly, nobody yet has forgotten the four hurricanes that inconvenienced us in 2004, nor can we forget the three storms of 2005. But before we look ahead to this coming season, let's stop and take stock of the lessons we've learned from our most recent experiences and prepare our children for this year.

In 2004 and 2005, we pulled together as a community and did all the things good friends and neighbors do when the chips are down. We shared food, water, tarps, and cell phones, and we took time to connect with the strangers across the street. We reached out to those in need and made some great new friends in the process. We hunkered down, we weathered the storm, and together we cleared the deadwood.

We became accustomed to the blue tarps, and fortunately, tarp city is almost gone. So what can we do to prepare for this year? Certainly we cannot change Mother Nature. After all, few mothers allow her children to change her. However, we have now learned how to live with her. And that is the first step towards a safe season.

The good news is that most of the things five hurricanes can damage have already been damaged and replaced. New roofs, stronger windows, and better structures mean less damage. The old trees are gone and the new trees are firmly rooted in their place. Our communities are now ready to come through the storm with minimal or no damage.

Yes, were ready. We all know what we have to gather, and for the most part, we all have our storm supplies ready. Sure, there are some things we can still do. For example, we can still have our plan of where to go when the phones are out. We still need to know where the closest shelter is.

Those of us with kids should consider going to visit friends or relatives when the next storm comes. After all, what better time is there to go on vacation than when a hurricane is in town?

Weve all discovered that cell phones work during the storm, and weve all learned that if you cant call directly to a family member, then we need somebody else to calla central friend or message boardsomebody out of town who can let everyone else know were okay. Dont forget text messaging, email and SMS. Teens and even young kids with cell phones are expert at these technologies. Chaos is the only constant in natural disasters such as hurricanes. The answer to coping with the sense helplessness chaos brings is to take control of some aspect of the disaster. Even if you know how to text message, ask your kids to help you or even teach you to use these technologies.

The key to feeling safe and not worrying about this years storms is to be prepared and to have a plan. Make sure your children know the plan, have practiced the plan and can implement the plan without you. Thats right, the key to security is knowledge. After 2004 and 2005, we have the knowledge and we have the experience. And as a result, well get through this years storms far easier than we got through last years.

So when the wind blows and the rain falls this season, well be warm, dry, and hunkered down. Well play games with our kids, talk with our kids and maybe even learn something about them as people. Well hold your children close until the sun shines in Central florida again. After all, they dont call us the Sunshine State for nothing.

Dr. Maurice A. Ramirez is the founder and president of the consulting firm High alert, LLC.. He serves on expert panels for pandemic preparedness and healthcare surge planning with Congressional and Cabinet Members. board certified in multiple specialties, Dr. Ramirez is Founding Chairperson of the American board of Disaster Medicine and serves the nation as a Senior Physician-Federal Medical Officer in the national Disaster Medical system. Dr. Ramirez has a new book: You Can Survive Anything, Anywhere, Every Time. His website is http://www.High-Alert.com

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The Best Ways to Learn Golf

online golf lessons are convenient and easy for those who want to learn more about the game, but who don't have the time to take lessons from an instructor. With an online golf course, you will learn the basics including how to hold a club, how to balance your weight on both feet, how to swing, how to move your arms and legs, and how to follow-through on a swing. These courses can be viewed over and over until you learn how execute these moves yourself.

For many beginning golfers, having an instructor is not enough. In order to learn more, downloading lessons is an easy way to increase their knowledge about the game and help themselves become better golfers. online golf training has helped many people enjoy the game of golf even more. When searching for an online golf lesson website, visit sites that are legitimate and offer free trials of the software. Even though this software should not cost too much to download, you should not pay unless you feel comfortable using the site. Make sure you read the instructions pertaining to downloading materials carefully and completely so you ca begin using the software right away.

Because you can download these lessons directly to your computer, you should be able to use them whenever you have the time. Watch the lesson completely the first time through and then watch it again more closely. You will begin to see where improvements can be made in your own game. Take notes if you want to practice holding the clubs to get a better idea of how to hold them or swing.

If you are looking for advanced software, you can purchase software that critiques your swing and offers golf swing analysis from most computer stores. With this software, you may need additional equipment, so be sure to read all the instructions before buying any software. You may need to create a video of your swing so the software can analyze it. It will be able to tell you what you are doing right and what you are doing wrong. Advanced software has great options for real time simulation. For example if you are planning to play in Calpe then the software can simulate weather in Calpe.

Learning how to play golf is different for everyone. While some people need help from instructors, others can learn by watching instructional video, DVD's, or computer programs that are filled with advice and tips. Having these options can only enhance your golf game and allow you to learn at your own pace. Once you have learned the basics, you can learn more advanced techniques that will help you become a better golfer.

Peter Wilson works primarily for http://www.alicante-spain.com, a website on the topic of Alicante, Benissa and many different topics. The author established his experience on things associated to weather in calpe.

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